Helpful Guide to Writing a Heartfelt Best Man or Maid of Honour Speech.
As Cinemate reminisces about our most eventful year to date, we're instantly drawn to the laughter, tears, and occasional blush-worthy moments from the wedding speeches we've witnessed. With a new wave of weddings on the horizon, the excitement is palpable, not just for the couples but also for their chosen best man or maid of honour.
We understand the unique pressure that comes with crafting the perfect speech. Simon, having been a best man himself, is all too familiar with the challenges and rewards it presents. That's why we've put together this indispensable guide filled with best man and maid of honour speech tips to support these crucial members of the wedding party.
“It usually takes me more than three weeks to prepare a good impromptu speech.”
Start Early with Your Speech Writing:
Begin the process a few months before the big day. This early preparation ensures that your duties as the head of the wedding party don't overshadow the importance of a well-prepared speech.
Construct a Memorable Speech:
Impromptu speeches are a gamble. Invest time in writing a thoughtful speech that conveys your message clearly. Cue cards or electronic device with key points can be immensely helpful during the actual delivery.
Ideal Speech Length:
In the United Kingdom, wedding speeches are an integral part of the wedding breakfast, adding sentiment and humor to the festivities. It is recommended to aim for a duration of five to eight minutes for your speech, striking a balance that ensures engagement without prolonging it to the point of overstaying your welcome.
This point comes directly from Simon's own experience, as we mentioned earlier about him being a best man. Not only did he craft a ten-minute speech, but he also composed and performed a song on the piano as part of it. While both the speech and the performance were very well received, in hindsight, Simon wishes he had either halved the length of both or focused on just one element to keep things more concise and impactful.
Opening with Impact:
A speech's introduction is critical. Start with humour and warmth to set the stage for what's to come.
Showcase Your Unique Talents:
Whether it's a humorous song, a clever poem, or an entertaining slideshow, let your skills shine. Remember, visual aids like slideshows require good lighting to be effective.
Here’s a perfect example of great humour and sincerity in a speech from George and Jarren’s wedding films at Dunskey Estate.
Jokes in Good Taste:
When incorporating humour, focus on your friend rather than their partner. Ensure your jokes are inclusive and appropriate for all guests. Also, make sure to balance the use of honour with genuine emotions.
Sincerity is Key:
This part of a speech is crucial and frequently overlooked. It's essential to remember that authenticity never fails to make an impact. Take this opportunity to sincerely express your well wishes and genuine sentiments as your friend embarks on this new journey in marriage.
Capturing the Essence of a Lasting Partnership at an Isle of Raasay wedding.
Talking of professional comedians…
Topics to Avoid in Speeches:
Unless you're a professional comedian, certain areas should be considered off-limits: negative comments about the couple's relationship, past marriages, and inappropriate jokes or props.
Practice Your Speech:
Rehearsal is vital for a smooth delivery. It allows you to fine-tune your speech's pacing and tone, ensuring confidence on the day.
Recover with Grace:
If an element of your speech doesn't land as expected, stay composed. A swift recovery can turn an awkward moment into an endearing one.
Bestman recomposes himself after emotions get to him.
Before You Start:
When writing a speech as the best man or maid of honor, consider the specific details of the venue. If you plan to use visuals like screens or printouts, make sure to take into account the room's size and lighting. For example, using a projector might seem like a great idea, but if the room is brightly lit during the summer, visibility can be poor, and people may struggle to see. It's important to assess the room's size and lighting to ensure everyone can see your visuals clearly. You want your visuals to enhance your words and make an impact, rather than getting lost because of unsuitable conditions.
In the art of speechwriting, balance is paramount. A truly memorable best man or maid of honour speech is a tapestry, intricately woven from threads of humour, sincerity, and personal touch. It's crucial not to overemphasise one element at the expense of others; instead, blend them harmoniously.
When these components come together seamlessly, they create an unforgettable narrative that not only honours your friendship but also adds a unique warmth to the couple's special day.
“There are always three speeches, for every one you actually gave. The one you practiced, the one you gave, and the one you wish you gave.”
Why You Need a Filmmaker
Your wedding day is filled with so many special moments, and the speeches from your best man and maid of honour in other prominent family members are some of the most personal and emotional highlights. These are moments you’ll want to relive – the heartfelt words, the laughter, and the applause. But capturing them properly takes more than just photos or short clips.
Simon’s experience as a best man is a perfect example. He gave a speech and performed a song on the piano, but because there wasn’t a wedding filmmaker present, none of it was recorded. It’s a moment he and the couple wished had been preserved.
While photographers and content creators capture beautiful stills and brief moments, only a dedicated wedding filmmaker can truly bring these moments back to life, allowing you to feel the emotion, hear the words, and see the reactions for years to come. If you want to treasure these memories forever, hiring a wedding filmmaker is the best way to ensure they’re captured in their full glory.
